Thoughts
2023
Mar 07, 2023
During the first phase of divorce, we go through the stage of denial or shock. We can’t believe that this is happening. It wasn’t in the plans! The next stage is what I call the Roller Coaster. It’s the tornado … Read More
Feb 28, 2023
It is common for those going through divorce to experience “Bag Lady Syndrome,” including thoughts of scarcity and fear over finances. It’s easy to catastrophize when your foundation is rocked. After all, household income now has to cover two residences, … Read More
Feb 22, 2023
It has been a busy month for the Divorce Recovery Center! We’ve got a new location, a new staff member, and have been working to implement improvements to our programs and resources. Read on to see what we’ve been up … Read More
Feb 21, 2023
“Good fences make good neighbors” – Robert Frost Even when someone is well-meaning and cares about you, they may ask questions about your divorce that you are uncomfortable answering. And then there are acquaintances who just want the scoop. Either … Read More
Feb 14, 2023
“The mark of a wild heart is living out the paradox of love in our lives. It’s the ability to be tough and tender, excited and scared, brave and afraid—all in the same moment.” – Brene Brown Love is complicated. … Read More
Feb 07, 2023
“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.” – Dr. Seuss There’s nothing like divorce to make you feel crappy about yourself. You’ve probably heard insults, criticisms, … Read More
Jan 31, 2023
As Al Anon says. “JUST FOR TODAY I will try to live through this day only, and not tackle all my problems at once. I can do something for 12 hours that would appall me if I felt that I … Read More
Jan 24, 2023
“A smooth sea never made a skilled sailor.” – Franklin D. Roosevelt Divorce can feel like a bomb was dropped on your home. Life becomes chaotic and the cleanup seems never ending. There are so many adjustments (financial, residential, social, … Read More
Jan 18, 2023
Negative thinking is natural when going through divorce. There are many, many layers of loss and challenge that inevitably occur. It’s important to honor and acknowledge difficult feelings and thoughts and then work on letting them go. Holding onto them … Read More
Jan 10, 2023
The best visual example I have for divorce is Dorothy standing on Auntie Em’s porch as the winds start to kick up. All sorts of things fly around her; sticks, trees, furniture, an elderly lady knitting in a rocking chair, … Read More