Quick-Fix Society vs. Real-Fix Recovery
In multiple areas of modern life, we are blessed with quick solutions to various situations. If you’re hungry but don’t feel like going to the grocery store, just call Door Dash or Uber Eats and order your favorite sushi, subs, salads, or pizza from your favorite restaurant. It will arrive in minutes, and having paid online, you can avoid that pesky transaction part.
And then there’s Amazon – However, I do not have the time or space for that discussion here!!
So, it stands to reason that we are swiftly transforming into people who can’t wait for anything and look for instant gratification in many areas of our lives. You can see how and why this is happening, but truth be told, it doesn’t serve us in all arenas.
In addition to the more recent developments listed above, there’s another, common tendency in our culture to look for easy, quick, one-size-fits-all solutions to complex, multi-layered problems. You can see this play out in numerous places, from our education system, to attempts to handle PTSD in the military, to the ongoing homeless crises in the US.
Deep down most of us know that real intense and ongoing work is needed for true, lasting change in behavior, thought processes and healing.
When it comes to dealing with the heartache and grief of divorce, there will not be an instant or easy solution for most of us. It will involve work and time and yes, even struggle. But, for those willing to put in the time and the effort, most will attain a renewed level of peace, serenity, acceptance, and a more healed sense of self.
So, I propose that we do not reach for quick, easy solutions to fix the pain and grief of divorce. Instead, we work to heal from the inside out and we accept and allow the healing process to take the natural and necessary time.