New Beginnings and Fragile China: What’s the Connection?
When you are getting ready to begin a new chapter in your life, no matter what that might be (a new job, a relationship, the loss of someone important, etc), it will probably be filled with some level of fear and anxiety, the scary unknown.
As we pack up our items with bubble wrap and gently place them in a box, it’s very important to recognize that the single most important item that needs to be handled with care is YOUR HEART.
This is the moment that often requires us to be vulnerable, something that not many people want to be. It’s understandable. Who would want to be sad but the reality is we have to feel it in order to heal it. That means, with your open mind and open heart, you release, every thought, every feeling, every tear…. All the bitterness, all the anger, all the pain, all the sadness. And you forgive. Forgive yourself and forgive them. And then you visualize your future.
What do you want it to look like? What do you want it to feel like? Do your best to make sure that every decision you make moving forward supports the vision in your mind. It should be filled with patience, compassion, love, kindness, and peace towards yourself and others. Be very mindful that every word you say out loud can become someone else’s internal dialogue.
Every action you do can be an action that someone around you mimics. Just think about that for a second. That doesn’t mean that you keep yourself in an unhealthy situation and continue to be kind. That means that you set boundaries to heal yourself and you can be kind from afar. Life lessons are very challenging but we need them. As much as those moments are so difficult and make us feel trapped and that we don’t have any control, we still need those moments. Why? Because they change us. We choose if those situations change us for the better or for the worse. What is the lesson to be learned? I choose to learn. I choose to grow. I choose to become the healthiest version of myself because I deserve it, my kids deserve it and even my ex-husband deserves it.
We all deserve to live a happy, healthy life. For this moment, I’m going to ask you to breathe with me.Exhale all that no longer serves you. Inhale new beginnings. You got this! You are not alone!
Victoria Alercia-Casella LPC, Counseling Services
