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New Beginnings
Dec 09, 2016
According to marriage experts, the first major crisis in many marriages is the birth of their first child. Raising a child can bring parents to the height of joy and the depths of despair. Parenting a child evokes emotional extremes … Read More
Dec 02, 2016
Holidays can be rough on families, because they bring with them all the expectations of what a family is supposed to do and be like. All of our dreams of the perfect family having the perfect dinner with the perfect … Read More
Nov 17, 2016
The holidays can be an exciting, joyful time. They also can be full of stress, over planning and a general overwhelmed feeling. This can especially be the case for families going through a separation or divorce. Make sure Everyone’s on … Read More
Oct 11, 2016
Labor Day has only just passed and we can already see the signs of “the holidays” approaching. Even though the leaves are still green on the trees, department stores are already putting up displays with snowmen and sleighs and candy … Read More
Aug 23, 2016
by C.B. Shaw, SG, FP People ask me, “So what is it like out there…I mean dating after 50”. My answer is an unequivocal, “It’s an adventure”. Step one, set aside your fear. Yes, there will be rejection. Best to … Read More
Jun 27, 2016
A little listening, plus a little fairness, plus a little understanding can help you hear another point of view. Lack of effective communication skills leading to frustration, not feeling understood, disconnection, and conflict is a commonly cited reason for unhappy … Read More
May 23, 2016
By Deirdre Hally Shaffer, MSW, LCSW In 1943, Abraham Maslow, in A Theory of Human Motivation, defined a five-stage hierarchy of needs necessary for individuals to achieve their full potential. Since the steps are sequential, an interruption can cause an … Read More
Apr 22, 2016
GPS: Good Planning for Security You know how your GPS reacts when you change course. “Recalculating,” the computerized voice reports. How reassuring! You can’t get lost since the program constantly reassesses your position. Well, divorce is definitely a departure from … Read More
Apr 08, 2016
By Deirdre Hally Shaffer, LCSW Divorce is a life-altering event that can result in feelings of depression even in the most well-adjusted, successful people. Grief does not discriminate and should be expected with the loss of something that was once … Read More
Mar 04, 2016
By Deirdre Hally Shaffer, MSW In The Five Languages of Love, author Gary Chapman discusses the pitfalls and solutions to expressing and receiving love in ways that are unique to each partner in a relationship. The post-divorce period can be … Read More