Relationship Success

Building Bridges, Not Walls

Only twenty years ago, people would casually stroll the neighborhood, stop and chat with each other or walk down the street and greet you cordially. Nowadays people walk at a very fast pace and for the most part just walk past you looking at the ground lost in their own thoughts. It seems less people will say hello to a stranger.

So it seems to a lesser degree with family and friends. Have we in this society lost some of our ability to communicate? Are we so involved in our own problems that we just don’t really see people anymore?

Our society today its all about anything that makes things quick and easy. Unfortunately this does not always work, especially if you are trying to resolve something.

Take for example a married couple. Communication is so important for long-term relations. Without it, love just goes away. If a couple has not had real communication for a very long time, this can happen.

Couples tend to put all their attention on the things they don’t like in their spouse. If this is all you can put your attention on then you are doomed to a separation and ill feelings in your marriage.

Find something to admire about your spouse. Everyone has good or strong points so if you start to focus on that instead of all things bad you may be amazed to find there is good there too. This is what you saw in the first place that drew you to your spouse. If you do this enough, your feelings will revert to the original way you felt about that person. It is about building bridges, not walls. It is very easy to build walls but if you learn to find what is good in your marriage, you will build bridges instead.